There is a movie on
cable called Life of the Party starring Melissa McCarthy. I saw the movie on
television at least four times. I’ve watched it alone and then I have watched
it with my daughter and with one of my granddaughters. I know that I have
downloaded it on my DVR. Today while I was in Target, I saw it on the shelf and
promptly picked it up, purchased it, and bought it.
To me, this movie spoke
volumes. It’s so funny, despite at times being unbelievable. The opening scene where the husband and wife
dropped off their daughter at college really resonant with me. I had nine
children and each time that one would go off to college, a small part of me
died when I had to say goodbye. The part that really resonated was when the
couple drove off and the husband stopped the car, looked at his wife and
announces that he wants a divorce. The confused look and then the disbelief and
then the hurt on the woman’s face are gut wrenching to say the least. I felt the same way the main character did
and still remember it. That scene hit close to my life because my ex left me
after our youngest child went to college.
The wife could have
bottomed out, taken drugs or alcohol, but instead after a few days, she enrolls
in college; the same college where her daughter is attending. That was pretty
ironical because I did the same thing; I enrolled in a master’s program in one
of the area colleges. None of my children attended that college.
Unlike a few things
that were similar, the main character and I had a number of differences. She
probably was in her early 40s while I was in my mid-50s. She had that school spirit and was eager to
attend college even to the point of living on campus, and buying ever school
spirit shirt, hat, sweatshirt and more.
I didn’t live on
campus. I was a commuter. I was nervous but I wanted a degree in writing. I
also hadn’t set foot on campus for over 35 years. Things had really changed; even
to how young the students, the instructors, and my own advisor. I realized that
I could easily have been their mother. It didn’t help that my advisor was
cute…that just made me tongue tied and uncomfortable. My writing was good but
my advisor was a poet and he liked the works of the younger writers. It seemed
vulgar language and sex was high on his preferential list. My life in
comparison was dull; it was filled with kids, grandkids, animals, and self-doubt.
The main character in
the movie seemed to fit into the college scene well. She even went to a frat
party, where her daughter upgraded her mother’s looks. The Mom looked great and
younger and eventually she would end up with one of the frat guys and do the so
called ‘walk of shame’ out of the fraternity house. That scene was uncontrollably
hilarious and now I know why depends are the in thing.
There is also a scene
in the movie, where the main character ate her fill of chocolate bark, only to
be informed it was medical marijuana. I sampled a chocolate candy and like the
main character my eyes felt like those comic book googly eyes. The world felt
different and waves of uncontrollable laughter assaulted me. Going up was
great, coming down was not so much fun. By the way – when I sampled this edible
treat I was in a state where it was legal.
Yes, she graduated with
her daughter. Her future seemed pretty good and positive. I graduated as well
and am plying my trade as a writer. Sometimes I come out on the winning end,
despite writing and researching places to send my stories, and being rejected.
So, every so often when
I need a good laugh or I need to pick myself up…I put on Life of the Party and
laugh my way up.